Welcome to our August Newsletter!
This newsletter is a transition point from our focus on Taming The Brain over the last several weeks to our next topic….Conversations For Action, where we willfocus on creating effective action and results.
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Today’s topic is busyness.
I can’t think of anything that impacts both our ability to tame our brain and our ability to take effective action to produce results more than busyness. So, I thought it was a perfect consideration for this transition.
How much does busyness intrude into your life? Or the lives of those around you? It seems to be a modern society plague that is ever-present.
Ultimately, busyness has very little to do with how much we get done. However it is all about doing. Busyness is a way of relating. It has more to do with how I am being than with what I am doing. That is a seeming paradox, because we think busyness is all about doing more. But, it is doesn’t ultimately lead to doing more. It leads to stress, anxiety, frustration, exhaustion and overwhelmedness.
There are two paradigms in the world. The first is DO HAVE BE. It goes like this. If I DO the right things, then I will HAVE what I need to succeed in life and then I will BE the person I aspire to be.
The second paradigm is BE DO HAVE. It goes like this. If I am clear about who I am committed to BEING, then I will DO the things that naturally arise out of this commitment of being and will then HAVE the things that produces. If what it produces misses the mark and needs to shift, then I dial back into what I am committed to BEING, and go again.
The first paradigm (DO HAVE BE) is completely dependent on what you do. It is dependent upon competency, (which is limiting) and ends up being rooted in scarcity.
- It keeps you on the treadmill of doing, doing, doing.
- It invites envy (someone who is better than you at doing a particular thing is a threat), and ends up exhausting and overwhelming you because, in that paradigm, there is always something else to do…we get our self worth from doing.
- It invites comparison and arrogance (I am an amazing doer-I deserve this, I am a better doer than you, you need to learn how to do as amazingly as I have learned how to do, etc.).
- It is rooted in scarcity (I am not enough-you are not enough-or this situation is not enough so I need to do more to compensate.)
The second paradigm (BE DO HAVE) is birthed out of a vision to BE (loving, free, patient, peaceful, etc.).
- It has abundance (You never run out of options to shift to when committed to be loving, for example.
- If it is not happening [love] then you can always note what is not working and go again.)
- You have unlimited options for doing, because your life is not dependent on doing to carry the day, it is dependent on being.
- It anchors you into what really matters. It interrupts performance as the end-all-be-all (of course, focus on DOING is all about performance).
Life obviously includes both DOING and BEING. But, how you are BEING makes the biggest difference in what you are DOING.
The Taming The Brain disciplines of silence, solitude, and contemplation invite us to release our need to DO and simply BE. They invite us to look afresh at how we are being, as we release our need to focus on thoughts and actions and simply notice how we are being (our emotions and physical sensations) as we clear our mind of clutter, focus on deep breathing and relax into what is going on for us emotionally and physically.
These disciplines are PRACTICES. We PRACTICE being, and release our felt need to be doing. They enable us to notice what we were not previously noticing and to listen to what we were not hearing before-from our own heart and soul. They are practicing stillness so we can experience what we were not noticing prior, and afford us the opportunity to hear what we were not hearing before.